Letting Go❤️

“Let it be, let it be, let it be whisper words of wisdom let it be” John Lennon and Paul McCarthy

Yesterday when I was shoveling snow and shifting through conversations I had with others, some work related, some personal, it seemed that many of the individuals were focused on an interaction (sometimes more that one) that had been problematic with another person. Some individuals had taken actions to work through the problem at hand, others had decided to distance, and some people decided to cut ties. Yet they were still talking about these past experiences a lot.

What all of these individuals had in common was that they could not let go. The experience(s) they had stuck to them in heavy ways. It was like they kept looking in the rearview mirror of the car while trying to drive forward. Think about it. If you are in a bumper car ride at amusement park and in your bumper car you keep looking back to see who is coming your way or what they are doing regardless of pressing the gas pedal you are going to crash into other cars, perhaps spin in circles, because you do not see where you are going.

“Yesterday is heavy, put it down.”

This weekend I watched part of the interview Larry King had with Rose Parks. When he asked her about her anger, about everything that had happened to her, she said “I tried to have as little anger as possible. The anger I still had I used to help people who were suffering, who were discouraged and did not have the courage to take a stand for themselves.” Rosa Parks did not dwell on the experiences of her past to weigh her down. She used the emotions she felt to comfort and support others to move forward.

In an article in Lifehack written by Charles A. Francis “How to learn to let go of what you can’t control” Charles writes

“A friend of mine once told me, ‘Almost everything in my life that I’ve had to let go of has scratch marks on it.’ His point was that he found it very difficult to let go of things he couldn’t control. I’m sure many of you can relate to that.” Charles states that fear makes it hard to let go. We’re afraid of what will happen to us if we lose something that we depend on for our survival, or happiness. So, we hold on as best as we can.”

The positive side to letting go and letting things be is freedom. An inner sense that you will be okay because you are okay. If you are hanging on to things or people it stops you from growing personally. As Charles writes

“If we hold on to something, we can’t move forward. We cannot grow emotionally if we hold on to something we think brings us happiness. If you keep holding on to things around you, then you will remain stuck in the past because things are always changing.

As you learn to let go, your self-esteem and self-confidence will grow. When you realize that you won’t die from letting go of things you thought you needed, you will be able to pursue things that are healthier for you.”

Keep this in mind. The amount of how you talk about anything in your life will have an impact on you. Words do become part of who we are. Words whether they are spoken or thoughts in our brain impact our personal sense of energy, confidence, self-worth. Some experiences need to be talked about and talked through, sometimes for quite a bit until they can be put to peace. Pay attention to what you are talking about. Does it bring you up or pull you down?

Yes you can let things be. You can let go of trying to control the people, places, and things around you. If you focus on being happier and healthier you will have more inner peace and power in how you live your life. In the movie Finding Nemo when Dory and Marlin are in the whale and Dory tells Marlin the whale has said “It’s time to let go! Everything’s gonna be alright!” Dory let’s go with ease. Marlin tries to hang on longer because of his fear. Yet everything was totally alright.

When I let things go and relationships with individuals end, I do this with love and kindness. I let go with loving thoughts for them and gratitude for all the learning and joys they gave to me. Years ago I used to harbor resentments and anger. This weighed me down and was hurtful to me. As I because a more loving me I changed to wishing goodness and love for people in my past. This feels lighter and peaceful.

So most incredible person you know if someone or something is weighing you down. You feel it. Do some self reflection. Are you trying to control people, places, and things around you? Are you harboring hurtful experiences from the past and looking in your rearview mirror? If so take an action. Don’t talk anymore about whatever it is. When you begin to think about it distract yourself to think about something else. You matter. Let go of the heavy and move forward in your life.

May your let it go be with you💜